Everyone has their unique way of saying I Love You. Some have no trouble saying it every day, while others have trouble saying it at all. Sometimes it’s a tricky situation when you are with someone who says it daily, and you don’t say it often enough, or vice versa.
It’s time to broaden your mind and learn some new ways to communicate how you feel. Interestingly, there are ways to say I Love You without saying the words. The most interesting ways come from The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
In this book, you learn that everyone has a different love language. The five love languages are acts of service, gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, and physical touch. You can use your partner’s love language to say I Love You, and your partner can use your love language to say I Love You. Each relationship has its way of giving and showing love.
I am sure that you have probably heard the phrase, “Actions speak louder than words.” You get more satisfaction from feeling loved rather than someone saying you are loved. Today, you will learn how to put those words into action by using these 16 speechless ways to say I Love You.
Write A Note Or A Card
You can be fancy with it and get an expensive Hallmark card, or be creative and make the card yourself. Make sure that the message on the card matches how you feel. It is a simple and creative way of saying I Love You that will make your partner’s heart smile. Your significant other will be happy to receive it.
Here comes the fun part! Be sure to write a personal message inside the card. Just write a thorough and well-thought-out message that comes from your heart. It can be sappy, funny, tear-jerking, etc. The main motive behind the card is to show that you love them, you were thinking about them, and you took the time to find a card and write a meaningful message.
Give Them A Nickname
Nicknames are the most endearing part of any relationship. Having a nickname that your partner only uses makes you smile. Having your partner come up with a nickname for you and calling you by it shows that they love you and pay attention to you.
You can make it funny, lovely, or practical when giving a nickname. There are couples out there who have nicknames for each other based on their private moments, and others that created one based on their partner’s personality. The nickname should be based on the qualities that you find endearing about the person.
Send Them A Love Song
There are probably millions of love songs floating around on Spotify, Tidal, Pandora, etc. Try to find a love song that expresses how you feel about your partner. It can be a funny or romantic song that speaks to how you love them. Perhaps you already know their favorite love song, or you have a song that you both enjoy. Whatever song you send, make sure it sums up how you feel. Pair this expression with others on this list, and the person receiving it will feel the love.
Take Care Of Them When They Are Sick
Going back to the five love languages, this hits two of them. This speaks on acts of service and quality time. Plenty of you have been in situations where you were sick, throwing up, and just had no energy to do anything—lying in bed, having no food to eat, nothing to drink, and taking NyQuil just to sleep. Wouldn’t it have been nice to have someone there for you during those tough times?
Taking care of a partner when they are sick is an amazing way to say I Love You. Making the food, bringing them something to eat, bringing them the “sick bucket.” These are ways to a person’s heart. When you feel at your absolute worst and feel like you have no energy to do anything, having someone special by your side to care for you and make you feel better is priceless.
The person on the receiving end of these acts will know that they are loved and cherished in your eyes. This will confirm that when they are at their lowest, you will be there to pick them up and give them the strength they need to continue.
Remember Key Things About Them
Have you ever received a gift or small gesture from someone, and it was exactly what you wanted? Well, it’s time to do that for your partner. However, the only way to do that is to listen to them and learn things that they want and need. It can be as simple as how they like their coffee, their sandwich cut, or knowing their favorite comfort food. Listening to them helps you know what they like, and then you can surprise them with it.
These gifts can make anyone feel loved and special, no matter how big or small. Imagine if someone knew exactly when you needed a “pick me up” and brought you your favorite snack. That would feel amazing. The joy would come from not only knowing that someone thought of you, but they thought specifically about what you needed at that time.
Listen To Them With Your Ears, Heart, Mind, and Soul
Listening is one of the most important skills that many people forget that they possess. Having a listening ear can be a perfect way to show that you love someone. However, it’s not only good to just listen, but you also need to listen with all of you. You begin to learn and notice subtle signs about your partner. You feel the difference in their energy when dealing with something. You notice their body language when they are happy and sad. You pick up on all these clues that show you the difference in that person. Listening opens doors to a person’s heart and makes you feel more connected.
Kiss Their Forehead
Plenty of couples loves to kiss each other. Some couples rarely kiss, while others display too much PDA. However, a barrage of kisses is always a great way to show someone you love them. This one, though, seems rather different than them all. A kiss on the cheek is nice, a regular kiss is great, but a kiss on the forehead symbolizes much more affection.
A kiss on the forehead shows affection while also showing respect and understanding. A forehead kiss symbolizes emotional and relationship closeness. It’s a sweet gesture that demonstrates true love.
Hold Their Hands/ Cuddle
Physical touch is another one of the five love languages. Physical touch can be interpreted differently based on the location of the physical touch. Holding your partner’s hand, caressing them, or cuddling with them is always interpreted as a way of saying I Love You. Holding hands symbolizes that you are there with them, present with them, and not letting go of them. Caressing and cuddling symbolize the closeness of the relationship and makes your partner feel safe in your arms.
Try to caress, cuddle, and hold hands more to show that you love them. Hold hands or caress them out in public. It shows a high level of comfortability with each other.
Share With Them
Sharing with your partner can show them that you love them, especially if you are not used to sharing. When you share with your partner, you open doors to a mutually beneficial relationship around caring, openness, and comfortability.
There are several ways to share. You can share your food with them, share your fears with them, or share your accomplishments. There are other ways of sharing, but these can be the main ways of showing love without verbally saying it. Sharing your food with them shows that you are willing to sacrifice for them. Sharing your fears shows that you are open to being vulnerable with them and open up about yourself. Sharing your accomplishments shows that you want them to be there with you when you succeed.
These may be small things listed above, but they are so impactful in showing love. A person will feel special just by the simple act of sharing with them.
Do Tasks For Them
Have you ever had a mountain of chores or tasks to do, and you just didn’t know how you were going to get through them? Then someone comes along and starts helping you cross tasks off your checklist. Imagine how you felt when you knew if you had done it by yourself, it would have taken forever but having that helped save you a lot of time. That is how it feels to be loved.
When your partner has a load of tasks and things that they need to do, take the time to help them. Just helping cross off one or two small things is a load off their backs.
Imagine if your husband or wife has to pick up the kids, buy groceries, take out the trash, take the kids to where they need to go, and complete a work project before the day is over. What if you could take one of those tasks off her list? Try helping her out by taking the trash out or ordering groceries for delivery. Now she has two fewer things needed to be done. Now she feels less of a burden and has more availability to focus on the other tasks at hand.
Help your partner out sometimes. Those small chores can pile up leading to a mountain of stress.
Send Them Something They Had Their Eye On
You know that you saw the way your partner looked at that dress or suit. Their eyes were beaming with excitement imagining how it would look on them. Consider getting it for them and surprising them.
Everyone loves Christmas and birthday presents. However, you don’t always have to wait for a special occasion to give your spouse a gift that they will love. The surprise and joy that they will feel will make them feel loved.
Support is a mainstay when it comes to relationships. You want to feel supported and loved by the decisions that you make. This will truly make someone feel loved. When they come to you and vent to you and express an idea or thought that they are planning to act on. Cheer them on each step of the way. They will know that you have their back and are willing to support them in all they do.
Having someone in your corner, pushing you, cheering you on, and encouraging you is one of the best feelings in the world. This is one of the simplest but most effective ways to say I love You.
Send Them A Good Morning/Good Night Text
What happens when you want to show your love to the person on the other side of the phone? One of the easiest but best ways is to send them a good morning/good night text.
It’s an effective method that can bring joy to your partner’s mornings and nights. They wake up in the morning to your beautiful message, and they go to sleep seeing your beautiful message. They will go through their day thinking about you and go to sleep dreaming of you.
You can even be extra loving and send them a good morning video and a goodnight video. If you are in remotely close time zones or in the same time zones, you could even facetime/video chat in the morning and at night.
This is not to say that you shouldn’t message them throughout the day. However, those morning and night times are crucial. You can make someone’s day with a lovely thought-out good morning text.
Let Them Know Their Importance In Your Life
Sometimes, saying I Love You can lose its meaning. As mentioned before, actions speak louder than words. However, sometimes other words speak louder than I Love You. In this case, it comes to expressing their importance in your life. You can do this with words, or you can get creative. Speaking from the heart and letting your partner know that they are important to you and have significant importance in your life can go a long way.
Sweet Words For Them
As mentioned earlier, sometimes other words speak louder than I Love You. This is the same in this case as well. Instead of using the words, I Love You; you can get more creative and use other words that mean the same but have a different tone.
A few examples of these are:
- You’re my dream come true.
- You mean the world to me.
- You’re my miracle man/woman.
- You make me smile.
These are only a few simple phrases that demonstrate love in a slightly different way.
I know this is hard for some, but it is important. You must remember anniversaries. This is an amazing way of saying I Love You without verbally saying it. If you’ve been together for a long time, then those anniversaries can be important, such as the day you were married or even your first date. If you’ve been together for a short time, it can be anniversaries such as the first kiss, or the first day you moved in together.
Take the time out of your day to comment on how the day is special. Consider giving a card or small gift to express how much the anniversary means to you.
I Love You has been used so much nowadays that it has sometimes lost its meaning. Not everyone will be comfortable with other ways of saying I Love You. Some just need to say it and hear it, and that’s fine. However, let’s give those who shy away from saying it a chance. Let’s give those who reserve it for a special occasion a way to say it.
Next time you feel like I Love You is not enough, take one of these ideas and implement it into your relationship. You can even pair them up together and be creative, like writing a card and getting them a special gift. Try to show your partner you love them instead of just saying it. You will begin to see differences in your thinking, appreciation, and communication with each other.