What are the Signs He Loves You?
We have all been in that space in a relationship where things are moving along well, and you might start to think, “This thing we have going is pretty great.”
Maybe, just maybe, you might even feel like there is love brewing, which is equally anxiety-provoking and exhilarating.
Then, the real fun begins when you start wondering if he loves you. You may begin realizing how you feel but wonder how he feels.
Yes, things seem good. Maybe even good.
But that elusive “L” word might not have been dropped yet. You are wondering whether he loves you might leave you feeling like your stomach is floating into your throat.
You enter this dance, gauging his movements and trying to anticipate those moments. So you can meet vulnerability with vulnerability and profess your true feelings for each other.
While this dance might have you ready to hide in a dark room as you breathe into a paper bag, have no fear! Signs being aware of that can indicate your man is in love.
He may not say it yet, but he shows some of these signs. There is a good indication he has fallen for you.
1. He Asks to Spend Time With You
When you are dating, you are sharing your life with someone. Chances are, you are spending quality time together, which is significant and essential in any relationship.
Sometimes, time together can become routine (i.e., we eat dinner/lunch together several days a week, go to the gym together on Fridays, have a date night, etc.).
Those rhythms of a relationship are lovely and valuable.
If your significant other begins breaking away from the routine and asks to spend time with you, it shows he enjoys seeing and being with you.
Even if it is small, like asking to go on a walk or bringing you coffee before you go about your day, it shows he wants to soak up any time with you he can get. Which is one of the signs your partner loves you.
2. He Introduces You to His Friends
A person’s close friendships influence their thoughts and feelings about the person they are dating.
I knew a guy from college who was in an on-again-off-again relationship for several years. When he and his ex broke up and got back together, his friends were so frustrated with him.
Eventually, this guy broke up with his ex for good, and all his friends was relieved. He ended up dating a new girl and was starting to like her.
After dating for a few months, he finally introduced her to his friends, and he said one of them looked at him later that evening and said, “Marry her.”
About 18 months later, he did just that. His friend said something he was already beginning to feel, so he wanted them to meet her.
If your man wants you to meet his friends, he sees your relationship as something special and worth sharing with other important people. It is one of the great signs meaning he loves you.
3. He Introduces You to His Family
Everyone’s family situation is different. Whether it is blood-related family or chosen family, everyone has those people in their life whose approval is critical to them.
The moment you meet a significant other’s family is pretty big.
When this happens, the subtext is, “Hey, this person is significant to me, and I want to be with this person. I want you to like/love them as much as I do.”
If he wants you to meet his family, it not only shows he thinks you’re worth it, but it can also be him tipping his hand at having deep feelings for you.
4. He Wants to Spend the Holidays With You
The holidays are everyday interactions on steroids. It is not just, “Let’s meet my parents for dinner.”
The holidays can involve way more intimate gatherings where connections are formed, and lifelong memories are often made.
If he wants you to share these experiences, he can show he wants you to be involved in his present and long-term life.
5. He Talks About the Future Using “Us” or “We” Language
When you first start dating someone, there is a period where you still think of yourself as an individual. Over time, it can shift to thinking about yourself AND your partner.
When profoundly caring about someone, you think about your future with them. I am working with a couple who has gotten back together after spending almost 18 months apart.
They said they could not imagine their future without the other person, even when broken up. They both said that was when they realized they still loved each other.
If he is talking about the future and is using the words “us” and “we,” he is envisioning a life where he does not want to be without you.
This same sentiment is true if he’s also open to talks about getting married.
6. He Does Things for You to Alleviate Stress
He goes out of his way to make things more comfortable for you, especially when you have a lot on your plate. Most partners who care about someone do not like to see them struggle.
When he goes beyond that and takes action to HELP you feel less stressed (i.e., running errands for you, cooking dinner, turning on your favorite movie, etc.), it illustrates he cares for you on a deep level.
7. He Takes Care of You When You Are Sick
Let’s all be honest; no one is super attractive when sick. Being sick also puts people in a very vulnerable state that is difficult to share with someone else.
People joke that you have a keeper when your guy holds your hair back while you throw up in a toilet or bucket.
I knew a couple where the girlfriend was ordered on bed rest for a week in a college dorm room with no cable (I know! Insult to injury, am I right?!).
The boyfriend brought movies and snacks every day between his classes. He wanted to help the girl that he admitted, several months later, he loved.
8. He Tells You He Appreciates You
Being grateful and telling someone “thank you” is one thing, but genuinely appreciating someone can hit on a deeper level.
If he is telling you he appreciates you, he is revealing how he feels and sharing because he wants you to feel good too.
9. He Tells You He Is Proud of You
Like the one above, telling you he is proud of you communicates how he feels. Your actions and the kind of person you are have impacted him and created stronger feelings toward you.
By communicating his feelings, he is also going out of his way to share them to make you feel good.
10. He Does Things You Want to Do Even if They Don’t Appeal to Him
Men worldwide have likely gone to great lengths to show someone their love and affection.
It is one of the classic television/film tropes where the guy in love with a girl will sit through something they hate to be with said girl.
He will be willing to do something. He is less interested in it and enjoys it because he gets to spend it with you. Those experiences are more enjoyable for him because he loves to be with you.
11. He Listens to You
You may feel he is a good listener. However, he says how he feels and what he remembers when it seems he might not be listening.
He might be getting you the computer case you needed several months ago. Mentioning off-hand that your comforter needs to be cleaned or asking about a co-worker you talked about having surgery.
Noticing those little details becomes more important when you are in love with someone. It shows he is listening and attentive.
12. He Prioritizes You and Your Relationship
If you want to know what someone’s priorities are, look at where they spend their time.
For example, if I had a current daily log of my life, my priorities would probably be: exercise, work, care for the kids, and watch the new season of Ted Lasso (which should be your next priority after reading this article).
This concept is pretty straightforward. If he puts you near the top of his priority list, you can assume he cares for you.
When you love someone, you make sure they are a priority in your life. That is why it is a great sign he might love you.
13. You Catch Him Looking at You
It is like you are in your rom-com! Those little looks across the room and turning back to look at each other as you walk away are not a thing of fiction!
Seriously, you might catch him looking at you across the room as you talk to a friend or the sweet smile he gives when you look over after something has made you laugh.
Those looks are one of joy and admiration and can be signs of his deep affection.
14. He Finds You Attractive in the Less Than Attractive Moments
I am not referring to the times you get dressed up in a dress that accentuates you in all the right ways.
Or those times after you finish fixing your hair and doing your makeup, think, “Girl, you look good.”
I am referring to those times after you hit the gym hard and have the pit stains and red face going. When you have just woken up, your hair is a hot mess, and the mascara under your eyes makes you look half-dead.
In those less-than-attractive moments, if he looks at you with that same admiration and tells you how pretty you are, you know he loves you. Or, at the very least, he likes you a lot!
15. He Goes out of His Way to Pick You Up When You Are Down
Your significant other loves to see you happy. It can be difficult for him when you are down because he will likely want to make it better for you.
A guy who goes out of his way to check on you and lift your spirits is a guy who cares about your happiness.
16. He Encourages You to Go After What Is Important to You
This one can be very telling. It can include smaller goals like running a few times a week or volunteering once a month at your local animal shelter.
A guy who supports your goals likely cares deeply for you. However, something very telling is a guy who keeps his dreams, even if that means it might take time away from him.
It shows he sees your dreams and your goals as of equal importance to his.
It shows a certain selflessness that can indicate he is falling in love with you because he is willing to sacrifice for what is important to you.
17. He Talks About You to Other People
Sometimes, I work with clients who eventually want to bring their spouses into therapy. Usually, we invite them because it can help bring new perspectives and aid in our work together.
Whenever I meet the spouse, I frequently share how happy I am to meet them and that I have heard so many good things about them.
It is true! And I want them to know that. I want them to understand how their spouse talks about them when they are not around.
The hope is that it helps them feel good about themselves to hear that they have spoken highly of them in a space where their significant other can say anything.
It is a big deal if his friends, family, or co-workers mention how much he talks about you or how highly he speaks of you! It means he cannot help but gush over you even when you are not around.
18. He is Almost Always Happy to See You
Paying attention to what he says is essential, but his actions can be very telling.
Who do you look at when the bride enters the room whenever you go to a wedding?
In the movie 27 Dresses, the main character talks about how she always looks at the groom “cause his face says it all you know?”
To be honest, that is where I look as well. For that brief moment, you see the emotion and the joy the love brings out of him.
Seeing his face light up when you walk into the room, or he almost seems giddy when you come home after a long day, shows he feels deeply connected to you.
19. He Knows the Little Things About You
This might seem obvious, but it can be easy to miss if we are not looking for it. You want him to know the little things about you.
If you have ever seen the rom-com Win a Date with Tad Hamilton, you know what I am talking about.
The best guy friend (but soon-to-be true love) of the female lead gives an impassioned speech about how she has six different smiles and lists what all of them are.
It is one of those super romantic moments in a rom-com that has everyone in the audience screaming at the female lead, “You need to be with this guy!”
When your significant other knows the little details about you, it means he notices you and cares to notice those things.
He shows he is observant, and he desires to know you on a more intimate level.
20. He Does His Best to Ensure You See Each Other (or at Least Talk) Everyday
Much of this depends on everyone’s situation because it might not be reasonable or feasible to talk to or see each other daily. What you want to look for is effort.
Does he make an effort to talk to you or see you? That is a great sign!
If he has deep feelings towards you, he will want to get in touch as frequently as possible. It might be a simple text to say, “Hey, I hope you’re having a good day.”
Whatever it is, he will contact you, illustrating how important you are to him.
Wrapping Up Signs He Loves You
Women are always looking for those signs or tell from a guy who reveals he is into them. They all want to know the signs to know whether he loves you.
While you do not want to over-analyze everything he does, signs indicate he is likely falling for you.
If you are wondering, “Where is this relationship going?” or “Is he falling for me?” these signs can start pointing to that neon sign that says, “I love you.”
Thank goodness you no longer have to turn to the flower petal game “He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not”! His actions will be able to tell a lot in terms of how he feels toward you. Actions speak for themselves to determine one of the signs he loves you!
While you can never be sure until he utters the “L” word, you can find peace and comfort that your relationship is moving in that direction.
It can make that dance of gauging his movements, attempting to meet vulnerability with vulnerability, a little less uncertain.
And, hopefully, soon, you will finally hear those three words you have been hoping to hear.