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Emotional Intimacy in Relationship

Emotional intimacy plays one of the biggest roles in relationships. It is essential to create a strong emotional bond between partners. This type of deeper level of closeness and emotional intimacy allows the exchange of many forms of energy, support, and vulnerability.

When two people are emotionally close, they are able to share their deepest feelings, emotions deepest thoughts and fears, thoughts and fears with each other. This builds a strong emotional connection and a deeper level of intimacy.

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Emotional intimacy is essential to creating stable relationships. Moreover, couples who have a deep emotional bond are often more likely to have a good physical relationship.

Also, people communicate with each other more, since mutual understanding is developed. All of course, these factors help to become comfortable with each other, which makes relationships more enjoyable.

Emotional closeness leads to greater intimacy on physical and spiritual levels. Emotional, physical, and spiritual types of intimacy are the three most important components of a healthy relationship.

Physical and emotional intimacy is touchy-feely stuff like hugging, kissing, and making love. Achieving physical and emotional intimacy in your relationship means more than your bedroom affairs.

Believe it or not, according to many studies, kissing is much more emotionally intimate than sex. There is that unexplainable connection while kissing.

Spiritual intimacy is the sense of oneness you feel with your partner when you share your values deepest thoughts and beliefs. This involves building an emotional connection based on your religious beliefs and practicing them together.

Simple activities such as going to places of worship together or reading religious doctrines to each other. Practicing your faith with your partner helps to strengthen your bond.

All these types are essential in restoring and building emotional intimacy in a romantic relationship. It builds emotional intimacy in a relationship restoring emotional intimacy in a relationship and allowing couples to feel close to one another.

The Signs Of Emotional Intimacy

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Understanding why you and your partner are emotionally connected is vitally important to ensure your relationship thrives.

If you want to understand whether you show signs of feeling close through the importance of emotional closeness in a relationship, or sexual intimacy, please, check the following.

Some of the signs that suggest you have a real connection with your partner include:

  • You frequently communicate with one another throughout the day. Whether it’s through text, phone calls, or video chats, you make sure to touch base often.
  • You both feel relaxed and comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings with one another. You know that you can express yourselves without judgment or fear of reprisal.
  • You share similar values and goals. This creates a sense of unity between most people around you and helps solidify your bond.
  • You support one another through thick and thin. No matter what life throws your way, you know you can rely on each other.
  • You enjoy spending time together, both in-person and virtually. Even in small moments when you’re not physically together, you find ways to spend quality time, connect and keep the spark of passion alive.
  • You have a strong physical connection with one partner. This doesn’t necessarily mean sex, but rather a general sense of closeness building intimacy and comfortableness with one another.
  • You frequently make plans for the future and spend time together. Whether it’s discussing your retirement goals or planning a trip 6 months down the road, you’re always thinking ahead as a team.
  • You’re able to be yourself around other couples and one another. There’s no need to put up a façade or act differently than you normally would.
  • You frequently say “I love you” and mean it. These words are not said lightly but rather come from a place of deep affection and connection.

If you can relate to most of these signs, it’s likely that you have a connection with your partner. This is a good thing! Nurturing this type of intimacy is vital to keeping your relationship strong and healthy.

If you still feel lonely or feel disconnected cannot relate to most of these signs, but do want to achieve this level of importance of emotional closeness in relationship intimacy, not a problem! There are many ways to improve intimacy and to build emotional intimacy and closeness.

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Building Emotional Intimacy in a Relationship

To be emotionally connected and intimate is to feel a sense of safety and security in the intimacy of the partnership.

Recognizing that there is a problem in the relationship is the first step toward restoring the broken pieces.

Building a healthy relationship is a lot of work. Couples need to have patience and be willing to accommodate each other during the entire process.

Emotional intimacy is more than just physical touch and sex. It encompasses both emotional distance and verbal and non-verbal communication.

Factors Affecting Emotional Closeness

Some of these factors include the following:

Exposure To Abuse and Violence

If one partner or a spouse or both partners are victims of abuse and violence, either physically or emotionally. It might cause ongoing conflict and a strain on the marriage relationship.

This person has gone through trauma, and the effect made them want to build a defense system against a future occurrence. This might make it less likely for them to feel relaxed and vulnerable enough to open up to intimacy.

Mental Health Status

People suffering from depression, anxiety, and some forms of personality disorders have difficulty getting emotionally close to people.

In some cases, your partner may have a difficult time becoming emotionally intimate because they are not used to experiencing those feelings.

Before you get judgmental or even feel lonely or upset that there is no connection between you two. Please, check all the odds and circumstances of your partner having mental problems.

Mixed Priorities

With everyday life, many couples find they can get so busy they stop making time for each other and it can harm the intimacy in a marriage and relationship. Responsibilities in the workplace can endanger the state of your marriage and relationship.

When partners are unable to prioritize sexual experiences with each other, it makes them feel unwanted, unacknowledged, and one-sided.

Broken Trust

Trust can be broken in a relationship when there is ongoing conflict with, dishonesty and disloyalty. Mending the broken trust will require forgiveness and vulnerability, which the affected spouse or partner might fail to give.


This arises from the experiences of previous relationships. Partners who have gone through a relationship that left them broken might be more vulnerable and skeptical about showing their emotions and vulnerability.

They are heartbroken. This emotional distance will affect their ability to feel and exercise vulnerability to create sexual and emotional intimacy.

Stop Communicating

Couples stop talking about their hopes, fears, and dreams. Instead, focus on their day-to-day lives and relationship problems. As a result, many couples find they start to feel like roommates or business partners instead of emotional partners.

How To Improve Emotional Closeness

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The ability to build a lasting relationship heavily relies on the willingness of the parties involved to make a meaningful connection.

A relationship cannot survive without intimacy. It will create grounds for mistrust in your partnership. Also, makes it difficult to accommodate each other. Working on your own building intimacy in a relationship also means taking time and being patient with each other.

Make time for Each Other

If you want to keep intimacy alive in your relationship, it’s important to make time for each other. Schedule regular, date night nights, even if it’s just a date night or once a month. Make sure you’re both on the same page about your relationship goals. And most importantly, keep communicating!

Activities as a Couple

Another way to improve your connection is to spend quality time alone together doing activities that you both enjoy. This alone spending time can help you feel closer to each other and build a stronger bond.

It’s also important to make sure that you’re both taking care of yourselves emotionally and mentally. This means taking care of your own needs and not always putting your partner or spouse’s needs first.

If you’re both happy and healthy individuals, it will be easier to build and develop intimacy with, develop intimacy maintain a strong connection.

Be a Listener

Listen to what your partner has to say. Sometimes, all your partner wants is to talk to an impartial person that will listen to them and validate and support their feelings or help them come to a decision. Make an effort to really listen to what they feel and understood what they have to say, without interrupting or becoming defensive A healthy relationship constitutes healthy communication too.

Communicate Your Feelings

If you are having difficulty communicating your feelings, try starting your sentences with the words ‘I feel….’
Talk to your partner about what you feel and understand they’re feeling, both positive and negative. Try to be open and understanding even if you don’t agree with everything they’re saying.

Complement Each Other

A simple compliment can actually go a long way in making them feel appreciated and loved. Take the time to show your partner how much you care about them. Make an effort to do things that will make them happy. Write a short love poem. These small gestures can make a big difference in your relationship.

Whether it’s by words grand gestures or actions grand gestures, making your partner feel valued is one way of your appreciation and strengthening your emotional connection. Tell them they looked good today, the food was amazing, or I’m glad you made the time for me today because lunch was wonderful.

Initiate Physical Intimacy

Anyone of you in the relationship has the ability to initiate physical and emotional intimacy. Don’t just leave sex life and all the work to one person to spend time with. Switch it up for that extra spice in your sex life that you’ve been looking for.

Have Difficult Conversations

This will require both of you to step out of your comfort zones. You need to identify and communicate with each other about many forms of sexual experiences and the relationship problems that you have encountered in the relationship and offer solutions.

Have Boundaries

Relationships are bound to experience some small moments of conflict and that’s OK. If your partner is willing to make it work, do everything possible to ensure it does. Otherwise, respect their wishes. Maybe it is time you focused on your personal growth.


One of the most important most rewarding aspects of building emotional and sexual intimacy together is feeling like you can rely on your partner for support. This doesn’t mean that your partner needs to be your emotional crutch. It does mean they should be someone you feel comfortable turning to when you’re experiencing difficulties.

Don’t be afraid to ask for emotional support from your partner when you need it. In strong relationships, it is key to the overall happiness and stability of the partnership.


If you have feelings for each other and are willing to kindly work and focus on the most rewarding aspects of your marriage and relationship, a beautiful marriage and successful union will last for a matter of a very long time.

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Lana Smith

I am a relationship coach. My passion is helping couples make their relationships work. I earned my bachelor's degree and hold a Master of Science in Education. I take my inspiration from watching and listening to people every day. . I do extensive research and love to compare the opinions of experts to help form my own. I have spent years learning about the dynamics of relationships and what makes them work. My goal is to apply what I have learned in the classroom and through experience to help others.