Ready to learn how to be a good stay-at-home wife? The key is understanding how to make the most of your choices and create a life you love. This guide will show you how to be empowered and confident in everything you do.
You aren’t born knowing how to be a good stay-at-home wife. Times change and societies evolve. A modern-day stay-at-home wife has autonomy and empowerment to create the life she chooses. That’s you, dear reader.
You aren’t under anyone’s foot in your own home. You are the queen of your household. With the support of your husband, you have the power to make your home a cozy nest. The tips that follow will help you step up your game as a stay-at-home wife. This is the job you love, the one you’ve chosen and designed for yourself.
Stay at Home Wife Benefits
So let’s start with the perks of being a stay-at-home wife. The freedom that comes with being a homemaker is the foundation under it all, but that’s not the only benefit.
Freedom to create your day
You are the boss at home. This is your chance to be a motivating yet forgiving boss that expects wonderful things from their one and only worker – YOU! No longer are you held to someone else’s idea of a productive day. You know yourself and what works for your family, and you have the final word on it.
Learn money management skills
With just your husband’s income, you’ll have the chance to build and improve your money management skills.
As the person making most of the purchases, you’ll learn a lot of ways to stretch your budget and make the most of your money. You and your husband can become a tight team involving money, which will only strengthen your marriage.
Instead of feeling trapped with a limited income, you manage your finances more closely than ever before.
Appreciating what you have
Living with less helps you appreciate what you have more. It may sound cliche, but an attitude of gratitude really helps your stay-at-home life go more smoothly.
Your budget will work better because you’ll be less tempted to buy things on impulse. You’ll create a more positive atmosphere because you won’t try to solve emotional problems with retail therapy.
Healthier and less stressful home
Living your life around two work schedules can be tough. Being a stay-at-home wife allows you to adapt your activities around just your husband’s job. You can have healthy home-cooked meals and an organized home without scrambling.
When you feel confident and relaxed about your daily plan, you can welcome him with a comforting atmosphere. You can focus on spending time together, which benefits both of you.
Duties, Activities, & Schedule
Being a stay-at-home wife is work. And like any job, it comes with a list of responsibilities and duties.
Being a homemaker isn’t about being lazy, it’s about doing your job with purpose and pride. You are empowered to create your work the way you need it to be. This is a great opportunity to develop yourself and make a positive impact on your family.
Your work as a stay-at-home wife may look mundane, but they are all part of creating a healthy and safe environment for the people you care most about.
The following is a list of typical daily duties for a stay-at-home wife. It’s your marriage and a few of these could vary. You might share some of these tasks with your husband, or he may prefer to do some of these himself.
- Meal planning and prep
- Paying bills
- Keeping track of the budget and finances
- Gardening/yard work
- Running errands
You may find more things to add to this list as you think about your home and life situation. Don’t worry if you feel overwhelmed.
The rest of this guide will help you pull it all together in a way that works for you and your family.
Tips for Becoming a Good Stay at Home Wife
Being a good stay-at-home wife requires planning and strategy. Take the following tips and create a routine that matches the rhythm of your home life.
Start the day with a good mindset
Your day begins in your head. Start with a positive mindset. Yes, you’ll have mornings when you sleep late or don’t feel great. But if you make a habit of creating a positive mindset first thing in the morning, you’ll do a better job of keeping it up throughout the day.
There are several ways to feed your brain in the mornings. Play music or listen to a positive and uplifting message. Listen to a podcast or tune into a YouTube channel you like. Prefer reading instead? Download some ebooks, bookmark a few positive blogs, or read a traditional printed book.
Journaling is another way to stay aware of your mindset. Get your thoughts and feelings out of your head and onto paper. Go from there and commit to making it a good and purpose-filled day.
Set your alarm clock
Pick a time and get out of bed and stick to you. It is so easy to let valuable time slip by with little thought, especially when you are sleepy. TV can suck you in, as can scrolling through social media or other types of entertainment.
Think about how you want your day to go and plan ahead. Do you have some activities that are best done in the morning? When do you like to exercise or do errands? Think about these activities, how long it takes to do them, and when you need them done.
Also, think about your personal circadian rhythm. Just because you use an alarm clock doesn’t mean you need to get up with the birds. Night owls will be night owls no matter what.
Be intentional with the start of your day and don’t leave it to chance. You’ll feel much better when the sun goes down if you start your day with purpose.
Get dressed head to toe
Do stay-at-home wives really spend every day lounging in their pajamas? That’s fun once in a while, but it doesn’t do much for your mindset, your energy, or your sense of purpose.
Everyone likes to relax, but you’ll get so much more done if you get dressed like you have a plan. And you do have a plan!
Getting dressed also helps you keep two very important things separate, rest and activity. It might sound silly, but getting yourself ready for the day kicks your mind into a different mode. Something as simple as that makes a big difference.
You don’t have to dress like you’re going to a business meeting but plan on wearing something other than your pajamas.
Wear your trashed clothes on purpose because you are cleaning or working in the garden. Put on something a little more presentable to run to the store or meet up with a friend. Wear your exercise clothes to – you got it – exercise. Wear your pajamas for bed.
Set and review your schedule
Take a few minutes to review your plans for the day and week. Do this the night before with a quick review of your calendar so you’re a step ahead mentally when you wake up. Doing this is beneficial because you’ll have fewer decisions to make in the morning.
You have the freedom to choose exactly how your day goes, which is a huge perk of being a stay-at-home-wife. However, you’ll be more efficient with a schedule and a routine. Set yourself up to feel accomplished by the end of the day. Empower yourself by being organized.
Think about what you want to do and when. It’s tempting to fill up your day from beginning to end with your to-do list. Instead, plan time for your duties as well as some down time. You’ll get overwhelmed if you hurry through your day with no breaks. Overworking yourself can upset your balance for the day.
Be realistic and think about what it will take to get things done. Prioritize a few important things and leave the rest as optional tasks.
Get in sync with the budget
To make your stay-at-home arrangement work, you and your husband must be a team and on the same page with your budget.
Unless you are working from home, you are probably living on one income. You must be creative and organized to make this work out. More than likely, you will make most of the purchases. You may even be in charge of paying the bills. No matter what, you both have to know where the money is going.
A good marriage requires two people who can communicate well with each other, especially about money and emotions. Money can create problems within a marriage so talk to each other about it regularly.
Define your financial goals as a couple and commit to spending money as a team. This is all about trust, and if you both communicate effectively, honestly and clearly, your trust will help you build a solid marital foundation. Your money decisions reflect your teamwork, so put a good plan in place and work at it every day.
Everyone needs a little fun, even on a tight budget. A budget can sometimes feel like a prison sentence if it doesn’t have a little flexibility to it. Agree on an amount and let each other have some freedom and fun.
Use some of that money for little splurges and even small surprises for each other. A little generosity like that will go far in a marriage.
Stay productive and on-task
One tricky part of being a stay-at-home wife is separating your work from play. If you work at an office, it’s obvious; you’re either at work or you’re at home.
But if your work is in your home, the separation becomes more difficult. You are your own boss and your business is taking care of you and your family. Your comfy couch you just vacuumed, which was your work activity, is also your casual, relaxing place.
To stay productive, you need to train your mind to know the difference between work time and down-time. Your mind and your surroundings are full of distractions. You’ll be easily pulled off-task if you don’t have a plan and a few tools to help you stay on track.
There are lots of different productivity tools, so find one that works for you. Productivity or list apps are great on your phone because they are portable and easily changed. You might prefer a pen, paper, and calendars to keep yourself on track. Set reminders on your phone to start or stop things.
Consider working from home
Just because you don’t go to an office every day doesn’t mean you can’t earn money.
This is a great time to consider putting your skills to work from the comfort of your home. Even a few hundred dollars a month can make a big difference. Plus, if you really enjoy your work, you can develop a new purpose to your day and create your own job.
Many people do side or full-time gigs from home and here are a few ideas to start with.
- Sell your services locally: Start a service-based business like dog walking, pet sitting, a home delivery service, or house painting.
- Freelance work: Use your technical or career skills to do photography, writing, editing, bookkeeping, or computer-based work from home.
- Sell things: Use your creative side and sell products you make on Etsy or through social media channels. Sell your old belongings or scout sales for desirable items and resell them.
Get out of the house
You may be a stay-at-home wife, but that does not mean you need to spend the whole day at home. You’ll appreciate your four walls more if you get away from them now and then.
- Start a garden: A garden will keep you busy for many months out in the fresh air. Start early enough and you’ll have a bountiful harvest for much of the summer and fall.
- Volunteer: Get out and help your community. When you give your time, you make your community a better place. Thinking of others also helps you keep a more grateful and generous attitude at home.
- Exercise outdoors: Take a walk, go for a run, or just wander and enjoy. Go out and get your vitamin D in the sunshine for a few minutes every day. Even if it’s not sunny, at least get a little fresh air. See nature unfold around you and appreciate the seasons.
Use self-care routines
You’re no good to yourself or anyone else in your home if you are grumpy and worn out. You have tasks and a purpose, but you are nobody’s slave.
Part of your job as a stay-at-home wife is to take care of you. Besides, who else will do it? Nobody, not even your husband. He may provide most or all of the income, but your personal responsibility to your body and mind remain yours.
Do some exercise and move your body; do not sit around all day. Even though you may have downtime, be active during the day. Take a 15-minute walk around your neighborhood. If you can’t get out, walk laps around your home or exercise in place.
The at-home exercise industry is booming, so you’ll find just about any activity you want online.
Yoga, walking, high-intensity workouts, or gentle stretching are all great to try. You can even pump up your heart rate by livening up your chores. Put on some fast music and rock it out. Not only will you feel better, but you’ll look better.
Make your home cozy and welcoming
Your home is your nest, your personal sanctuary where you and your husband feel the most comfortable. You welcome your friends and family into this space. This is your chance to put your personal touch into everything you see and hear around you.
Choose personal decor that speaks to both of your tastes. Try not to make it all about you and your preferences. Remember, your husband lives there too. This won’t be an overnight thing, and it will probably evolve over the years you are together.
Declutter regularly. It may not seem like much, but the decluttering has an almost magical effect on your mindset. Your mind gets irritated with a lot of visual clutter. You may not even be sure what’s wrong, but your mind will. Cleaning is obviously important, but decluttering is the key to a calm and happy home.
Choosing to Be a Stay-at-Home Wife
Your choice is empowering. You have the freedom to create the life you desire for you and your husband.
Don’t sell yourself short by being lazy and unproductive. Instead, commit to your purpose every day as a homemaker and make the best of it. Be the best boss you’ve ever had and love your job title as a stay-at-home wife.