Have you noticed signs that your husband doesn’t seem to be attracted to you anymore?
The key is knowing how to read these signs.
In this guide, you’ll discover uncomfortably accurate signs that he’s just not into you anymore.
When a marriage is solid, a couple’s bond is unbreakable. No amount of temptation or stress can crack through. But even great marriages have difficulties. No marriage is immune to a rough patch or a period of doubt.
You and your husband used to be this way: unbreakable. As you feel him pulling away from you, other red flags start to make sense.
Is YOUR husband not attracted to YOU anymore?
Questions, doubts, and heartache fill your mind. You might recognize many of these signs as you ponder this important question.
Sign #16: He Looks at Other Women
You’ve seen him look past you, at other women around you when you’re out together. He’s not looking at you anymore, he’s looking at them.
Men are visual creatures, and attractive women will sometimes catch your husband’s eyes. It will happen even in a good marriage because that’s how men are built.
When a man is in love, other women may look good for a moment. But his wife is attractive beyond just looks and she means everything.
When you see his gaze wander, you feel hurt and wonder what it means for your marriage.
Sign #15: You Don’t Talk Much Anymore
You used to talk for hours when you first started dating. That didn’t happen as much when you were newlyweds, but you still talked.
Now you hardly speak to each other, even when you start the conversation. Your husband gives short answers and doesn’t initiate much conversation with you.
After living together as a married couple, small talk is mixed with silence. It’s common for couples to run out of things to say to each other from time to time.
In your marriage, this seems different. Your husband doesn’t talk much about plans and goals for the future.
Instead, each topic is shallow and only about short-term activities.
This sign might make you question if you’re losing touch with your husband or worse, the possibility that your marriage may be ending.
Sign #14: You Wonder if He’s Cheating on You
After getting little attention from your husband, you wonder if he is cheating on you.
Is he even committed to your marriage anymore?
Has he taken his disinterest in you to the next level?
Is he talking to someone behind your back?
Marriages go through ups and downs, and it’s not uncommon to wonder if your spouse has been unfaithful or has started to develop feelings with someone outside your marriage.
The foundation of your marriage depends on trust.
If you sense him pulling away from you and see other red flags, it may be time to have a serious conversation with your husband.
Sign #13: He Doesn’t Look at You Much Anymore
Your husband used to look forward to seeing you get ready to go out. His eyes would light up and you could tell he would enjoy looking at you all evening.
Things are different now, and you hardly catch his gaze anymore. Even when you make an effort to look nice, it seems like he looks past you.
If he does gives you a compliment, it feels shallow with little meaning.
When a couple is first dating, they often can’t wait to lay eyes on each other. This impulse naturally dies down when people are together for a long time.
However, if your husband isn’t looking forward to seeing you around anymore, you may feel hurt and lonely.
Sign #12: You No Longer Have Date Nights
Date nights have been a fun ritual in your marriage.
Movies, trivia night, dinner, a walk in the park, and sometimes a surprise date were in the mix.
You and your husband both looked forward to these fun getaways.
Instead of providing a spark in your week, the thought of date night makes you sad and lonely. You miss it and don’t know if your husband cares to get it back.
Date nights are a way to get much-needed couple time. That doesn’t change when you get married.
These dedicated blocks of time are essential for your relationship.
Sign #11: He Makes Negative Comments About Your Appearance
If your husband won’t say something nice, why is he saying ANYTHING at all?
His negative comments about your looks seemed out of place at first. Now, he says these things all the time!
Maybe you don’t dress nicely as much as when you were dating. Perhaps your appearance has changed since you first got together, but so has your husband’s.
You don’t understand why he has turned so negative.
He has seemed accepting of you and all your flaws and told you many times how beautiful you are.
Why has this changed now?
Why is he so critical?
It just hurts to hear these things.
Sign #10: He Acts More Like a Buddy Than Your Husband
So maybe he isn’t ignoring you, but you don’t feel much like a couple anymore. He talks to you like you’re one of his pals, NOT his wife.
The personal, intimate comments he once shared with you have disappeared. Everything he says and does has a platonic friend vibe to it.
He doesn’t put his arm around your waist, he doesn’t kiss you anymore, and he doesn’t say anything sensual.
Intimacy can be difficult sometimes, even when couples are in it for the long haul. But this kind of change can feel disturbing, like your whole relationship is shifting off-track.
Sign #9: He Avoids Touching You for Any Reason
The spark between both of you was obvious, and you made a point of getting close every day. Even a random brush against each other felt comfortable and reassuring.
These days, he seems to avoid you.
He steers clear of you when he comes into a room. No random brushes, no hugs or affection, and any accidental touches seem to make him step back.
You long to be next to your husband, even for a moment. When you initiate and get closer, he pulls away and keeps his distance.
He seems cold and distant like you’ve never seen before. At this point, you may even begin questioning his love for you.
Sign #8: He Doesn’t Make Plans With You
You’ve each led your own lives, both with work and social circles. But no matter what, you always made sure you had time with each other.
You either spent a cozy night at home with a favorite movie, went out on a date, or squeezed in lunch during the week.
Your husband hasn’t been interested in catching lunch for months and he doesn’t talk about vacations anymore.
Sometimes married couples feel a little lost about the future. It seems hard to look ahead and know what you want out of life. After all, everyone goes through times where they don’t want to commit too far into the future.
It’s possible he has lost interest in you, but he may also face a different struggle in his own life.
Sign #7: His Mind is Elsewhere
You and your husband used to have conversations every day, and he liked being around you. Now, even when he’s with you physically, his mind is somewhere else.
He is distracted and it seems tough to get his attention.
Your husband may have a hundred reasons why he doesn’t pay attention when you’re around.
Has he lost interest in you?
Does he wish he were with someone else?
Without an honest conversation about his distracted behavior, you’re left to wonder.
Sign #6: He Turns Down Intimacy
You both used to look forward to private intimate time with each other. Sometimes you got things started, and other times he did.
Either way, you both got what you wanted – the physical and emotional intimacy that kept your fire burning for each other.
Your husband NEVER turned you down before. Now you seem to strike out every time you try. He also doesn’t initiate anymore.
Your love life with your husband is dead in the water, and you seem to be the only one bothered by this change.
Sign #5: He Doesn’t Compliment You Anymore
You don’t hear an occasional, “You look nice today,” anymore from your husband. Sometimes he’d even suggest you wear that certain top or pair of pants that made you look extra cute. Not anymore.
Your husband says nothing about your looks. Sure, you don’t want to go fishing for compliments, but when you make an extra effort, it would be nice to hear a kind word!
He used to enjoy seeing you, but now you feel less valuable, less noticeable.
Your efforts and appearance don’t seem to matter to him anymore.
Sign #4: He Becomes Easily Irritated When You’re Around
Every married couple feels irritation at times. You know this is normal – some things about your husband still drive you crazy, and NOT in a good way.
But overall, you’ve been able to look past those issues and have gotten closer.
Right now, you feel like you’re walking on eggshells.
You can’t figure out what you’re doing to upset him, and even the right things seem wrong. Just walking into the room seems to set him off.
You’ve started to avoid him so you don’t feel so uncomfortable…
When did it get like this, and how long can you keep living this way?
Sign #3: He Goes Through the Motions With Intimacy and Affection
You can tell he isn’t into you anymore. Your husband is trying to hide it, but it’s clear that he’s going through the motions.
He hugs you when you expect it and he kisses you when you approach him. No passion, no feeling, just actions.
Even when you’re intimate, everything seems so scripted and typical.
Instead of holding each other and lingering in your warm embrace, he lets you know it’s over. He is ready to move on.
It’s normal for couples to go through periods of closeness and distance, especially with intimacy. No couple is ever 100% on for months or years in a row.
Getting through these times can be difficult, especially when one person rejects intimacy altogether.
Sign #2: He Isn’t Around Much Anymore
Your husband is a busy guy with friends, work, and other activities. You’ve always known this, but he’s also made time for you.
During his busyness, you didn’t feel left out or neglected. You knew your time was a priority for him.
Things have changed and now he doesn’t fit you into his schedule anymore.
There’s always a reason he can’t be home for supper. He tells you to go out with your friends instead, or that he has extra work to catch up on.
You feel neglected and unimportant. You wish you could get the old life back, but you don’t know how.
Sign #1: He Avoids Being Alone With You
Your husband is always in and out for work. And when you go out, it’s always with others.
You’ve noticed it’s never just the two of you anymore. When it is, he heads off to a different room or gets ready for bed. If you try to join him, he finds a reason to end what he’s doing and take off again.
Intimacy is more than just physical closeness. Being emotionally close means being vulnerable and open to your partner.
If your husband doesn’t spend time alone anymore, he may have difficulty facing his feelings when you are near.
Once you see these signs, it’s hard to deny what’s happening. Your husband is pulling away from you, more and more each day.
Instead of sitting back and watching your marriage crumble, step up and start talking about it.
It won’t be easy, and you may not like what you hear. But trust, honesty, and communication are the foundation for every good marriage. And knowing the truth is a good place to start.